Netflix new dating show Pop the Balloon LIVE re-inforces some negative aspects of contemporary culture - Sara Taylor helps Christian parents think though the messages the new show is sending their youth and children
If you’ve not yet come across it, Pop the Balloon is a new dating series on Netflix that’s grown in popularity after being streamed on TikTok. A contestant walks along a line of potential matches and decides whose balloon to ‘pop’, effectively rejecting them based on first impressions alone. It’s a high-pressure test of appearance, confidence, and social power. Who’s attractive? Who’s awkward? Who gets left standing? No conversations. No background. Just a snap judgment, broadcast for millions to see.
It might look like harmless entertainment, but it reflects a culture that’s teaching our teens to assess — and be assessed — in seconds. We see this all over: on social media, where likes determine value; on reality shows like Pop the Balloon, where image is everything; and even in dating apps like Tinder, where a simple swipe right or left can define someone’s worth in a moment.
For young people shaped by swipes and likes, it adds even more pressure to look a certain way, act a certain way, and be instantly likeable. So how do we help our children hold on to their God-given worth in a world obsessed with validation?
Identity and the pressure to perform
Pop the Balloon takes social judgement to the extreme, but it’s not far from what many teens experience daily online. Social media thrives on first impressions, reactions, and surface-level appeal. If you don’t grab attention instantly, you’re ignored or dismissed. It’s a system built on quick judgments, not just of others, but of ourselves.
When I studied Youth and Community Work at the YMCA’s George Williams College, I wrote my dissertation on the disinhibited behaviour of teenage girls online. Several stories have always stuck with me. One girl said she deleted any photo that didn’t receive enough likes within an hour. Another mentioned group chat ‘rules’ that, if broken, led to teasing or exclusion. For them, social media wasn’t just a fun platform; it was a stage, and their performance was constantly being rated.
In a world that moves fast and judges faster, our teens need more than filters and followers; they need foundations
It’s important to know that this isn’t just a ‘girls’ issue. Boys face pressure too. Many are expected to show strength, humour, or dominance — whether through showboating online or keeping up a ‘hard’ persona. One boy shared how he’d only post gym photos because ‘that’s what gets respect.’ Ultimately, the behaviour may look different, but the pressure is just as real. And when young people get rejected in these peer spaces, it doesn’t just bruise their pride — it chips away at their wellbeing. A YoungMinds survey completed in 2022 found that 88% of young people had felt lonely or isolated as a result of not fitting in online.
As Christians, Romans 12:2 calls us to freedom from the need to fit in, reminding us, ‘Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.’ That’s a powerful truth; however, for our kids, standing apart takes more than just words. It requires space to breathe. And that’s not easy when the noise of fitting in is constant, or when acceptance and popularity feel like they’re always on the line.
Social media as a distorted mirror
Platforms like TikTok, Snapchat, and Instagram often become distorted mirrors for young people. They’re spaces of comparison, where everyone’s best bits are on display, and the algorithm makes sure you see them. The problem? It’s rarely a true reflection. Some of the girls I spoke to for my dissertation described spending over an hour editing a post — not because they were vain, but because they didn’t feel good enough. For some, validation became addictive. One teen said, ‘If no one reacts, it’s like I don’t exist.’
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This constant seeking of approval often leads to digital disinhibition — where young people post photos or comments they’d never share or say in person, just to fit in. And when it backfires, the consequences feel very public.
As parents, we can start by helping our kids name the lie: that their worth is up for public vote. Genesis 1:27 tells us every person is made in the image of God. Our value isn’t based on filters, followers, or being liked, but on being known by the Creator.
Parenting in a swipe-right world
One of the most striking comments from my research came from a 15-year-old girl who said, ‘It’s not that I have a life online. That is my life.’ For her, the digital world wasn’t a separate space — it was the main stage. When we assume our children see social media as just entertainment, we risk underestimating its emotional impact.
Whilst we may not fully relate to shows like Pop the Balloon, they give us a window into what our teens are navigating in life. If your child has seen it, consider asking them what they think about it. Do they agree with how people are judged? Have they ever felt judged like that? These types of conversations help them to reflect and process, as well as open the door for us to speak life and truth into their world.
When we help them root their identity in something deeper, we give them the courage to be seen without fear, to rest without guilt, and to live loved — not just liked
We can also gently guide them towards healthier rhythms. Encouraging screen-free evenings or social media breaks isn’t just about ‘detoxing’ — it’s about giving them time to remember who they are away from the performance of online life. The Bible talks about rest not just as a suggestion, but as a rhythm of health and wholeness. In today’s digital age, perhaps the Sabbath is less about a specific day and more about carving out intentional moments of sanctuary and finding space away from the noise.
Encouraging our children to unplug isn’t about punishment. It’s about restoration. It’s saying: You don’t have to perform right now. You’re safe. You’re enough.
Helping your teen navigate wisely
At the heart of this is identity. Isaiah 43:1 says, ‘Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.’ That kind of security is what our children need when the world feels like a stage and they’re constantly being measured.
By rooting our teens in the knowledge that they are fully known and unconditionally loved by God, we give them the tools to stand firm in a culture of comparison. Then they’ll be more likely to show grace instead of judgement, confidence instead of fear, and resilience instead of performance. As parents, we can’t control every app or algorithm, but we can create a home culture that gently pushes back.
Five tips for grounding your child’s identity in truth, not trends
- Model it - If your phone’s always out, they’ll learn that’s normal. Take digital breaks yourself.
- Talk openly - Ask them how social media makes them feel, not just what they’re watching.
- Reframe value - Celebrate character, not clicks. Praise kindness, effort, and growth.
- Create boundaries - Agree together on screen-free times — not as rules, but as rhythms of health.
- Remind them of His truth - They are loved — not for how they perform, or how they look, or how many followers they have, but simply because they are God’s.
In a world that moves fast and judges faster, our teens need more than filters and followers; they need foundations. When we help them root their identity in something deeper, we give them the courage to be seen without fear, to rest without guilt, and to live loved — not just liked.
